Answers to Your Questions on Death and Dying

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We’re initiating this blog on death and dying by addressing one of the most common circumstances we run into when talking with people about a person nearing the death transition. The question is a variation on the following: “My father is in his last stages and doesn’t want to talk about funeral and burial arrangements,…

Supporting the Death Process

supporting the death process

Question: My father is at the end of his life. I expect he will die before Christmas. He is not a devotee of Adi Da, but I am. How can I best serve my father at the moment of dying, if I can be with him, and the 3 days after his dying? My father…

Death Is A Living Process

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Question: How can you be in feeling relationship to someone who has died?  Adi Da said something about this in the quote from Easy Death. Isn’t the body just a shell and not the person? Answer: I’m reminded of a children’s book that He wrote, in which Avatar Adi Da said “we are more than…

Missing the Moment of Death

alone at death

Question: When my husband was dying, I spent as much time with him as I could. I didn’t want him to die alone and I promised him I would be there for him. But I left him for just half an hour and that’s when he died. I wasn’t there to hold his hand as…

Three Day Vigil After Death

release at vigil

Question: It was stated in the webinar that you do a three day vigil for Adidam devotees. I was involved with someone who had arranged to have a home funeral and once she died, her body was kept in the home for three days after her death. We painted her casket and put pictures on…

What Actually Happens When We Die?

what happens when we die

Question: What happens when we die? What does the person who dies experience? Answer: Avatar Adi Da tells us that death is not an ending, but is a living process and a very profound transformation. He has also described death as a “benign psycho-physical process.” You will not know exactly what will follow your own…

The Etheric, Consciousness and Deeper Psyche in Death

etheric being and death

During our Death and Dying Webinar, the following two questions were asked. I wrote a response which I thinks answers both. Please refer to www.DeathAndDyingWebinar.org, both webinars, to hear more information related to this subject. 1. What is the difference between the etheric and the continuing consciousness? 2.  When my mother passed, her facial image…

Emotions While Serving the Dying

emotions while serving the dying

On our last webinar, February 11, we answered the following question: What is the best way to “keep it together” while serving a dying person? How do you not let your emotions get in the way? Answer: You don’t necessarily need to “keep it together” at all. Please realize that both you and the dying…

Faith and the Dying Person

question of faith in dying process

Question: What do we do if the dying person has no faith in God or anything else? Answer:    Basically, we avoid trying to convince the person to become an instant believer.  Instead, we try to find out what, if not God or other religious symbols, moves the dying person beyond him or herself into a…

Denial and the Death Process

denial and the death process

On our last webinar, February 11, we answered the following question: I have a friend who is clearly in the dying process. She has cancer and has been getting progressively weaker despite all sorts of treatments. But she refuses to consider that she will not recover. How can I break through her denial? Answer: The…

What does “entering into retreat mode” mean?

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Question: What does it mean to enter into retreat mode, as it says in the Death and Dying Check List? Answer: Avatar Adi Da has said that if someone is dying and their condition is clearly terminal, they should use their time intensively for real preparation and not just be busy being socially and conventionally…